shallow materialism, body positivity, and my terrible sense of humor.
Q*eer
good at being adorable & vein... bad at
*listening to stories that don’t involve me
*talking to people i disagree with
*shutting the fuck up
I may be stupid but I really dont think there’s much more to being a good person than “do not add to the suffering in the world”
I’m not in a position to enact meaningful change, I have to work hard every day just to take care of myself, but like, the least I could do is not be a bigot. That’s something anyone can do. I can just live my humble, small life, and as long as I don’t hurt people, and I help people when I see an opportunity that I’m capable of safely contributing to, I think that’s probably enough
Oh my gosh. I just found this website that walks you though creating a believable society. It breaks each facet down into individual questions and makes it so simple! It seems really helpful for worldbuilding!
Heads up that this is a very extensive questionnaire and might be daunting to a lot of writers (myself included). That being said, it is also an amazing questionnaire and I will definitely be using it (or at the very least, some of it).
i need everyone who finds pete davidson hot to come to terms with the fact that he is just this generations steve buscemi in terms of looks
exhibit A.
i have some bad news for you on what people on here think about steve buscemi
While Steve was born rocking this look, pete has an autoimmune disease that can make putting on weight difficut and cause the appearance of bulging eyes. & these two actually go way back. Steve was a firefighter before becoming an actor and did a lot of volunteer work after 911. They met at an event for fallen firefighters when Pete was 15.
They also share a celebrity doppelganger is Don knotts who was considered a sex symbol is his day.
So yall still find it unbelievable Don knotts(barney fife) was a heart throb and yet when its a skinny musician (mick jagger) it makes sense that ppl thirst for him.
All I’m saying if Steve, pete and don were lead singers instead of playing comedic roles the idea that people find them sexy wouldn’t be that shocking.
i need everyone who finds pete davidson hot to come to terms with the fact that he is just this generations steve buscemi in terms of looks
exhibit A.
i have some bad news for you on what people on here think about steve buscemi
While Steve was born rocking this look, pete has an autoimmune disease that can make putting on weight difficut and cause the appearance of bulging eyes. & these two actually go way back. Steve was a firefighter before becoming an actor and did a lot of volunteer work after 911. They met at an event for fallen firefighters when Pete was 15.
They also share a celebrity doppelganger is Don knotts who was considered a sex symbol is his day.
So yall still find it unbelievable Don knotts(barney fife) was a heart throb and yet when its a skinny musician (mick jagger) it makes sense that ppl thirst for him.
All I’m saying if Steve, pete and don were lead singers instead of playing comedic roles the idea that people find them sexy wouldn’t be that shocking.
speaking of low empathy, my therapist is wanting to help me find motives to show more compassion in relationships and maintain them, so what are your motives unrelated to empathy folks?
Helping others is akin to to helping myself. People are an investment. A gamble. You can pay an initial upfront cost of listening politely when you disagree, or being one of the few people who shows up to help them move. And sometimes it doesn’t pay out, but most people are worth the investment. You end up wealthy in resources and relationships.
Compassionate people commit crimes of passion. Compassion people, high empathy people can be murderers. My point is Compassion can be overrated. I’m an empathetic person in a relationship with a sociopath on the spectrum and he’s lovely. He’s one of my favorite people on the planet. Why did people start living in packs anyways? Because its advantageous. He understands that if he wants others to show up for him, then he needs to show up for others. He’s dedicated, consistent, and loyal, because he wants me to be. I’m dedicated because I don’t want to hurt him. I have a compassionate motive, but that motive doesn’t make me the better partner. In fact I’m often the unhinged one out of the two of us.
my one superpower is that i can instantly tell when someone who doesn’t use the word “ya’ll” in their day-to-day speech starts using it to be sanctimonious and folksy on the internet
i can tell you don’t either OP or you’d put the apostrophe in “y'all” where it fucking belongs
tf who puts an apostrophe in yall ? Fuckin yankees
lol I am in such a stressed-out blind rage today from insurance bullshit that I wrote up a glossary of health insurance terms (things like deductibles, premiums, and copays) because all the free guides online are unnecessarily complicated and the only way you can squeeze a dime out of these bullshit companies is to understand their overly-complicated policies. give em hell
This is a GREAT guide folks - it’s simple, straightforward, and deals well with the overly complicated alphabet soup of medical insurance. Knowing this stuff can prove REALLY helpful, and the examples used are a great resource.
As someone who worked as customer service for a health insurance company, this glossary is VERY good. Use this information when you’re looking at plan options, use it when you’re looking at your Explanation of Benefits. An Explanation of Benefits (EOB) shows you the break down of the services you received and how they apply to your benefits and it will show how much of your deductible and Out of Pocket Limit (OOPL) you have applied, but its not the bill from the clinic/hospital. Your EOB should ALWAYS match your bill, and if it does not, call the clinic/hospital and sternly ask why.
Also, the time line of health insurance really messes with people, so this is the time line of processing:
You get services > hospital sends the bill to insurance > insurance processes > HERE THE COMMUNICATION SPLITS
Insurance will tell the clinic/hospital how much to charge you > you get a bill FROM the clinic/hospital (you pay this to the clinic/hospital)
Insurance will send you that EOB saying what to expect for the bill and the amounts applied to deductible/OOPL > Insurance will assume your paying the bill to the clinic/hospital, but does not check with the clinic/hospital that you do
Ugh that post has gotten me thinking about fat acceptance in a way I haven’t in years. I’ve read more studies about weight and health than probably any other topic I’ve ever researched. And every time I see someone wail about health I am just like
Did you know that in post-mortem examinations there is zero correlation between weight and levels of arteriosclerosis and related diseases found?
Did you know that people with an overweight BMI have the longest life expectancy, that those with an “ideal” and an “obese” have about the same life expectancy, and that being “underweight” raises mortality rates more than being “morbidly obese”?
Did you know that losing weight and then gaining it back is worse for your heart than remaining at the weight you started consistently?
Did you know that 95% of people who lose weight do gain it back, and there has never been a single documented weight loss program that has been demonstrated to keep the weight off for five years or more in the majority or even a significant minority of people? Like, telling people to lose weight isn’t much use if we don’t know HOW to make that happen.
Like I have read The Obesity Myth by Paul Campos and Rethinking Thin by Gina Kolata and Big Fat Lies by Glenn A Gaesser (Ph.D!) And Fat!So? and several other books that I don’t own and so don’t remember all of their names I spent like four years reading every single study coming out and looking at the methodology and noting which ones had huge holes or terrible methods and which didn’t (the holes were almost always in the pro-weight-loss studies) and like
Big Fat Lies has 27 pages of bibliography. 27 pages worth of scientific citation. The book content itself is only 197 pages. That’s a page of references for every 7 pages of book. Reading the book is just reference after reference and study after study. Most of these doctors (like Linda Bacon, author of Health at Every Size) started out the same way. They wanted to use the scientific method to find a real weight loss program or health solution that worked and could be proven to work, and so studied everything they could about weight and fitness only to find out that we didn’t need weight loss in the first place. That all the studies calling for it were lacking or nonexistent. That weight and underlying metabolic health have very little relation. That the history of our relationship with health and obesity has little basis in fact and a LOT of basis in capitalism, politics, and fashion. No, really, the association between weight and health was first proposed by insurance companies looking for ways to charge people more by claiming risk. They also charged tall and short people more. And people with different skin colors. When they got in trouble for charging people for things they had no control over and had no bearing on their health, they set out to prove that weight was controllable and that fat was unhealthy to make money.
These are also a lot of the same people who went on to invent the President’s fitness program, so if you went to public school you probably already hate them.
Anyway, if you want a place to start reading about the issue, this article is a pretty good launching pad.
This casual rant is like a primer on weight science. Amazing. I second their book recommendations, and would add to the list Body Respect by Drs Bacon & Aphramor, Body of Truth by journalist Harriet Brown, and What’s Wrong with Fat? by UCLA professor of sociology Abigail Saguy.
